We live in world where everyone wants to judge people based on their looks, we care about it very much even if we try to avoid it people find a way to say something judgy and maybe intentionally or unintentionally .
we surrounded with people who show us love and care and also people who are judgy try to hurt us,
today we gonna see how it effects people life's , how it can change a human personality,
maybe your unintentional words can be in someone head forever and hurt them,
today I just want to share with you guys how it can effect us, how people around us can effect us maybe the words they say sometimes the looks they give us, sometimes we cant share all this things even with our closest ones cause we feel humiliated, myself being through some situations like that I can understand this,
for example , when someone humiliates yours body just as a joke, it just a joke but yes, it can make the person lose his confidence and hate his looks and himself.
WHY PEOPLE JUDGE?
this is also a question which we may think at some point at our life's like WHY PEOPLE JUDGE ME?
Some people judge others just to make themselves feel a little better and can make others feel less worthy or smaller .
some people judge it based on ego, to be simply said they try to make sense of other things taking them selves as a reference point ,founder of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud referred to as " the part of our which has been modified by the direct influence of the external world."
that means Whatever you're criticizing someone else for, you're judging yourself for as well.
As a saying goes " you can only see in others what you have inside yourself"
HOW CAN WE PROTECT OURSELVES FROM JUDGY PEOPLE?
1.Don't take things too seriously.
For most people, this is a difficult task. We frequently presume that someone is acting in response to our actions. However, it isn't always about you.
Don't take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering." -Don Miguel Ruiz
2.Be considerable.
People that are obnoxious and judgmental are created, not born. Consider what might have happened in this person's life to cause them to become this way. A youngster does not develop judgmental behaviour until it is modelled for them. So it's possible that their parents judged everything, including them. You never know what kind of bad messages somebody get as a kid about themselves. While recognizing this will not make their actions any more reasonable, it will at least allow you to feel some empathy for them.
3.Focusing your attention on those who care about and support you.
If you can avoid or get rid of the judgmental individual from your life, do so! You have the ability to put some distance between yourself and them. If the person is your boss, attempt to remain as unnoticed as possible. Perhaps the person will forget about your criticism and turn their attention to someone else. So make a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive people in order to avoid being dragged down.
4.Tell yourself what you are.
maybe people judge us but internally we know what we are and we can make that wall more stronger by reminding it daily and telling ourselves that we are not "what other people think" we are what we know about us and what we can feel about ourselves.so, don't include other people opinion about who you are.
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